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Choose Your Words Carefully Please!

12 Friday Jun 2015

Posted by crazyworld0814 in JUST MY LIFE, MY ADVICE AND/OR THOUGHTS ON THINGS IN LIFE, RELATIONSHIPS

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anxiety, anxiety disorder, mental health, mental illness, panic disorder

I wanted to take a minute and write about Anxiety disorders today. If you know someone with an anxiety disorder, you should know that there are a few things that you should never say to them!

First of all, there are three different types of anxiety disorders. All three types have different symptoms, but all three center around irrational thoughts and feelings of dread or doom, panic/anxiety and it can’t be controlled.

Let me point out that we DO know that our thoughts, fears and panics are most likely irrational. We DO NOT need you to tell us, belittle us or our thoughts or try explaining to us how irrational we are really being.

Do NOT tell us that you know exactly how we feel! Do not say things like, “I get nervous too sometimes.”, your moment of nervousness before a big moment does not come close to what we are feeling. Unless you actually have an anxiety disorder, you have no idea what goes on in our mind. There’s no way for you to understand the feeling that is ripping through our body.

Another writer explained it like this and I couldn’t have said it better, so I wanted to share.
Imagine using multiple apps on an old computer. You can hear the gears turning and the computer trying to keep up, but it can’t. So, instead your screen freezes and you have to shut the computer down and start over. This is what an anxiety attack is like. Our minds have too many thoughts going on at one time, until it just can’t take anymore, so it shuts down.

Don’t tell us that everything will be fine. You don’t know that. Yes, our fear and worry may be over something small or something that you think is stupid to worry about, but to us it’s a big deal! We may be worrying about things that could actually go wrong and just because you think we shouldn’t worry about it, doesn’t mean we will stop.

I have had anxiety for as long as I can remember. I’ve always been a worrier. I know that I shouldn’t stress myself out over things that I can’t change or control, but my mind works in a different way than yours. Everyone has always told me to stop thinking about it, don’t worry, everything will be fine, but the last year of my life has proved that bad things do happen.

I worried myself crazy through my pregnancy with my daughter about all of the things that could go wrong and they did go wrong. She had an awful disease that took her life right after she was born. During that time, NOTHING was fine! I have always been afraid of being hurt in a car accident or that someone I love would be hurt in a car accident and I was hurt very bad in one just months ago! Nothing was fine during that time either! Yes, I have overcome both major hard times, but my worries and fears did happen! So nobody can tell me not to worry anymore. You don’t know what the future holds and if we are worried and panicked about something that may happen, just try to understand. We can not help it.

Do not make us the center of attention. If we are out with other people and we look pale, look nervous, are keeping to ourselves, don’t point it out for everyone to focus on by saying something like, “You look pale.” Or, “Why aren’t you joining in with us?” That is only going to make us feel worse! Let us join in at our own pace. If we choose not to, let it be. If we look pale or nervous, we already know about it! We don’t want any extra attention!

Finally, don’t tell us to “chill out” or “calm down”, if we could do either it wouldn’t be such an issue in our lives. We are already trying our best to calm down. You saying something like this is only going to make us feel worse because you will sound annoyed and we will feel like a disappointment of some sort. We already feel like outsiders, we don’t want to annoy you or make you angry with our constant irrational panic. We are doing the best we can to manage it on a daily basis.

Please have patience. Please be kind. Please choose your words carefully. Please try to understand.

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A special thank you to all of the EMTs and nurses out there!

05 Friday Jun 2015

Posted by crazyworld0814 in BROKEN ANKLE JOURNEY, JUST MY LIFE, MY ADVICE AND/OR THOUGHTS ON THINGS IN LIFE

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caregivers, doctors, EMTs, hospital, nurses, paramedics

It just dawned on me that through this whole experience with my ankle, I’ve only said thank you to and acknowledged the doctors and surgeons that helped me that awful day, but never the others that also helped SO much along the way.

First a HUGE thank you to all EMTS, but especially the two that responded to our car accident that morning. As soon as the wreck happened and I felt and saw what my ankle was like, my world turned upside down and I went into a panic and shock! It felt like forever, but in reality they arrived pretty quick. Despite their rush, I was hysterical by the time they reached me. I was NO HELP at all to them while they were trying to get me out of the car and into the ambulance. All I could do was cry and scream out of excruciating pain and fear, yet they never got frustrated with me. They worked quickly and without my help and before I knew it, they had me inside the ambulance! They began cutting off my shoe and splinting my injured leg/ankle/foot as best they could, with me screaming at them for touching it and hurting me more, but they did what HAD to be done. My veins are VERY small and neither of them could get an I.V. started, but they didn’t give up, they used the strongest meds they could that were not through an I.V. and tried to help me keep my injury as stable as possible on the bumpy ride! The most amazing part of it all was that they were so calm. I was in shock and asking the same questions over and over again and they answered me every single time. I wanted to go to the closest hospital, but the closest hospital was not the best choice, so they thought ahead for me and got me to a hospital that was prepared for my type of injury! Their job is to keep me stable and alive until they get me to a hospital, yet they went above and beyond their job description to comfort me, try and calm me and they did their best to make me feel as safe as possible in the middle of my panic and for that, I’ll always be so thankful!

Next, I want to thank all of the nurses that helped take care of me along the way. I’m going to start with a very special nurse. I wish I knew her name, but I never got it. She happened to be driving in to work that morning and watched our car accident happen. She rushed over to our car and jumped into action! She made sure that 911 had been called, made sure that it was safe enough to leave me in my seat and she took care of me until the paramedics could get there. She told me that she was a nurse and I asked her to stay with me, so she did! She held my ankle for me and made sure that it was stable because I was in to much of a panic to hold still by myself. She made sure that I wasn’t injured anywhere else and tried her best to answer all of the questions that I yelled out in pain. She let me squeeze her hand so hard that I’m sure she was in pain too, but she continued to help me slow my breathing. She assured me that everything would be fine. She said that the surgeons would fix it and that I would be back up before I knew it! If it wasn’t for her, I probably would have hurt my ankle even more because I wasn’t thinking clear enough to keep it stable and elevated. I would’ve passed out from the pain and fear if she wouldn’t of taken the time to reassure me and talk me through the pain. I believe that God put her in our path that morning because He knew that I would need her. She later told my hubby that she usually doesn’t drive that way to work, but decided to that morning very last minute! I am so thankful for her and her help. I thank God that she stopped to stay with me even though she was late for work already!

Finally, I want to say a big thank you to the nurses that were there during my 4 days in the hospital! I was terrified, I was angry, I was sad, I was in more pain than you can imagine and many other emotions, which didn’t make me a very good patient! I was difficult and a handful, I’m sure. I needed a lot of time and attention from the nurses and they didn’t hesitate to give me that! They did everything they could to ease my pain and make me comfortable. They never let me see that they were frustrated. They always stayed calm while I was freaking out and always tried to get whatever it was that I was asking for at the time. I’m sure they hated coming to my room, but they didn’t let me give up. They were all so understanding and compassionate! It takes a lot to be a nurse and I now have a whole new level of respect for them because they did an amazing job the entire time I was there!! They deserve more praise and recognition for what they do every day!! So, thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for all that you do!!

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04 Thursday Jun 2015

Posted by crazyworld0814 in Uncategorized

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ankle fracture, broken ankle, broken bones, broken leg, car accident, tib-fib

Well, I am so happy to say that I have taken my first steps without crutches or any other form of support!!

I can’t walk very far, very much or on uneven ground yet, but I’m doing it and it feels amazing!!
It’s not a very pretty walk and it can be painful and uncomfortable, but it’s freedom!

I have a MAJOR limp, but hopefully in a few more months, I’ll be close to my new normal.

So, for anyone just starting this journey, keep going. Do not give up!! Take it one day at a time because if you try to think too far ahead, you’ll drive yourself crazy. You will get there in your own time, I promise, as long as you don’t quit!!

I will update again in a few months on this topic, but I believe I’m done writing about it for now!!
Thank you for all of your support!

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