Okay, so if you follow my blog then you know that I write about a lot of different topics. A lot of those topics have to do with relationships, not mine personally, but relationships of friends or people I know that have come to me for advice.
Today’s topic is on a relationship and I must warn you that it is a VERY sexual topic and I will be VERY explicit! So, if you are not comfortable with this, I strongly suggest that you stop reading NOW! Otherwise, please continue!
For this relationship, we will call the wife Samantha and the husband Justin. For a little background, Samantha and Justin have been married for four years now. They are happily married according to Samantha and they are currently trying to have their first child.
Usually when people come to me for advice, I have pretty good advice to offer them, but this time I was a little stumped. With Samantha’s permission, I am sharing their story with all of my readers for your insight on the issue. Of course for their privacy, I have changed their names.
So, like most women, Samantha decides to snoop through Justin’s phone one night while he is in the shower. Now, she isn’t so sure that she should have done that because she is left with a lot of questions and uncertainty!
Samantha is not a stupid woman. She knows that her husband, like most men, watches porn on occasion. She has no problem with him watching porn because she is confident in herself and their relationship. Or she was..
On this night, Samantha decided to go through Justin’s browser history on his phone. She stumbles upon porn sites that he has been on and just out of curiosity, she decides to click on the link to see what exactly he was watching.
When the video loads, she is shocked, to say the least! The video is of a man preforming oral sex on a shemale and then the man is penetrated by the shemale.
For those who do not know what that means, I will explain. A shemale is a “woman” with breasts and a woman’s body, but she has a penis.
In this video, the man is giving the shemale oral sex while groping “her” breasts. But, instead of the man penetrating “her”, “she” penetrates the man.
Now, according to Samantha, they have a pretty healthy sex life and always have. Like I said before, they are currently trying to have a baby! Her question to me, that I was unable to answer, was,”Does this mean he is gay?”.
I am not a judgemental person. I have gay and straight friends and so do they. But, she would rather not turn to them for advice because she does not want her business out in her personal circle. This is why we have turned to you!
Does it make Justin gay because he enjoys shemale porn? Is it just a fetish? Is he just using Samantha to keep everyone from suspecting that he is gay? Is he bisexual?
I do not have the answers for her that she so desperately seeks.
Can a man enjoy this type of porn and be completely straight? He has watched NO gay porn, only shemale porn.
Comments are welcome! Advice is welcome! Debate is welcome! Help me to help her.
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Reblogged this on savanvan and commented:
Personally, I think its probably a fetish. I know plenty of people like that … He’s married , wanting to have kids .. If he was gay then I’m sure he would know by now . Most women watch lesbian porn , that doesn’t make them lesbians , it just is something that pleasures them , I’m sure there are plenty of people in the world like this , and if anything if there relationship is close enough , ask him about it . Of not maybe ask “hey mind if I search something on your phone , mines not working” or something like that and then say it popped up or something .
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Never thought of it like that before! You are completely right! I really like your point about women watching lesbian porn and your idea of asking to use his phone if she does not feel comfortable enough to just ask him! Thanks so much for your input!
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Its either a fantasy or fetish. Whether he is gay or not, well… we don’t know. Some men, might have a secret fantasy (or two or more) for themselves that they want to keep it from their partners (maybe feel ashame or not accepting). Still, does it mean if a husband watches a group of men having sex with one woman and all the men are looking at each other’s penis or both penises touch one another is gay? Hmmmmm
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Very good point, or rather another great question! Thanks for your thoughts!
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I think that he is possibly bisexual, but I wouldn’t go so far as to assume he is gay. If he was gay, he most likely would bipass having any boobs in his porn. I would bring up the possibilty that he could possibly just enjoy watching felatio performed on a male because he envisions himsefl receiving it, but it is a little suspect for him to want to watch a man perform it. Although the fact that it still includes the woman’s breasts being groped, shows that he also wants to see female genetillia in his porn still. I think he is either bisexual, or just enjoys to fantasize about partcipating in bisexual sex, but would leave it as purely something to just fantasize about.
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Yes, those are my thoughts too and for Samantha’s sake, I hope it is only a fantasy! Thanks for the great feedback!
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It’s not as strange as it sounds on the surface. Most guys watch some form of porn, it creates a kind of mental rush. The problem is that with most rushes they tend to fade a bit over time and that leads to a search for the next rush. Generally that means looking for slightly weirder porn. If he only watched gay porn, that might point toward other leanings, but what he’s watching isn’t that out of the ordinary. It’s probably just the “phase” he’s in with porn for the moment, next week it might be midgets, who knows. If she’s that concerned, she should just talk to him and be open minded with what he says.
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Good point! I am a very open minded person and understand the reasons behind watching porn, but trying to put myself in Samantha’s place, I can still understand her uncertainty. I hope after all of this feedback she will either feel comfortable enough to just let it go or talk to him about it! Thank you!
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